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Our behavior is a great indicator of our view of the world.

The New World Order consistently brainwashes us through the use of the various media with ungodly images, information and principles that are irreligious, immoral, self-obsessive, lust, and pleasure promoting.

Proverbs 23:7 states, "For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee."

What a person thinks in their heart and mind will be reflected in their words and actions. Verbal abuse is the result of a worldview that is not Biblical. It is lack of respect for the goodness of God and it is spiritual abuse. Genesis 1:27: So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

We all know someone who has been abused verbally or physically. Verbal abuse doesn't leave physical evidence, many victims suffer in silence and isolation. Victims of verbal abuse live in a gradually increasing realm of confusion.

Victims heal from physical abuse, however, mental abuse, verbal abuse, head games and spiritual abuse cause a path of destruction in the life of the victim that effects them deeply at the spiritual, emotional, and psychological levels. All abuse and oppression is of Satan and should not be tolerated.

Verbal abuse is hurtful, attacks the nature, character and abilities of it's victim. Over time, the victim begins to believe there is something wrong with their abilities. They begin to feel as though they are the problem and responsible rather than the person who is being verbally abusive towards them. The abuser’s behavior can swing quickly from sweet and seemingly kind to angry and hurtful.  It is typical to feel as though you are “walking on eggshells” or on an emotional roller coaster.

One of the most common ways that verbal abusers try to get their victim to be responsible for their own problems is projection. An example of projection is a characteristic of themselves that they find too painful to accept is projected onto the victim. It is the act of attributing one's own feelings or traits to another person and imagining or believing that the other person has the same feelings, or traits and participates in the same thoughts, actions and behaviors. Abusers project on to their victim behaviors they themselves are doing, their thoughts and their unkindness.

The abuse may be angry outbursts, name calling or subtle comments that can come close to brainwashing tactics that involve blaming, projection, put downs, accusations, demands for change, and other various destructive strategies designed to control, oppress, emotionally distance and confuse the victim.

The goal of abuse is always to control the victim. It is manipulative and insidious. Over time, the victim's self-esteem diminishes, they attempt to change their behavior to try to please the abuser. It becomes an endless cycle of abuse with explosions and demands by the abuser for the victim to change to please them. It is all about pleasing them and about their selfish desires. Nothing the victim does is ever good enough. The abuser is unappreciative of the victim's efforts. They pick at the weaknesses of the victim, they do not build on the strengths and gifts of the individual.

Unpredictability is one of the most significant characteristics of verbal and physical abuse. The victim is shocked, stunned, and thrown off balance by the sarcasm, anger, hurtful words, name calling, accusations, etc. It expresses a double message. The abuser often sounds very honest and sincere while they explain to their victim what is wrong with the victim and how they need to change.

Abuse may begin subtly as put downs disguised as jokes or mocking attempts to be funny. The abuse escalates, increases in intensity and becomes more frequent in occurrence. Regardless of how the abuse is masqueraded, the words cut the victim to the quick.

The verbal jabs may be delivered crassly or with great skill, but they all have the same effect of diminishing and throwing the victim off balance. The truth is not flowing in the life of the abuser. There is no love. The cycle of abuse is an endless cycle until the victim leaves and distances themselves from the abuser.

 

Be cautious who you allow yourself to be yoked to in life and ministry. If people accept you for who you are, love you where you are at, encourage you to be used of God, encourage the gifts God has given you, pray with you, study the Word of God with you - it is of God, the yoke is easy and the burden is light. If it is oppressive, abusive, there are verbal jabs, they project on to you things they themselves are doing, they bring confusion, they try to control, they do not follow through on their word, they blame you for everything, there is no consistency, there is no study of God's Word or prayer together, it is of Satan - do not get involved and do not be yoked to such a person.

 

A Biblical Perspective of Verbal Abuse

The Bible clearly warns us about the dangers of an angry person. Proverbs 22:24 says, “Do not associate with a man given to anger; or go with a hot-tempered man.” And Proverbs 29:22 says, “An angry man stirs up strife, and a hot-tempered man abounds in transgression.

It is not God’s will for anyone to be verbally abused. Disrespectful actions, angry and critical words will destroy confidence and self-esteem. These behaviors will attempt to chisel away at a believer's foundation and relationship with Jesus Christ. Being submissive does not mean allowing oneself to be oppressed, verbally or physically abused.

Abuse is of Satan, it is not of God. The abuser's behavior reflects a world view. They do not view their victim through the Eyes of God. Jesus said in John 10:10 "The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly."

First, know God loves you (John 3:16). The Bible teaches, “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).

The Bible teaches in Psalm 51:6 that “Surely You desire truth in the inner parts; You teach me wisdom in the inmost place.” Even though you may have feelings of guilt, you may not be the guilty party.

God declares you His cherished creation. Psalms 139:14 says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Everyone is being conditioned. On a macro level, the public is being trained to accept abuse. The New World Order takeover plan is based on programming and reactions as the police abuse the public and claim that it is for public safety. The New World Order is working non-stop to alter our perceptions of reality.

John 14:6-7 - Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really knew me, you would know my Father as well. From now on, you do know him and have seen him."

Many of the problems which face society as well as individuals, can be traced to an improper foundation. Make sure that you are standing on Jesus as the Foundation, for HE alone is worthy of our trust and able to support us through all the storms of life.

To help you build the foundation on the Rock, Jesus Christ read this article: The Foundation: Jesus Christ.

 

1 Corinthians 13 (King James Version)

 

 

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